Ghosting is for Halloween: Modern Etiquette for Non-Traditional RSVPs & Digital Invites

You just got invited to a Glow-in-the-Dark Escape Room for a birthday or an Axe-Throwing Tournament to celebrate a promotion. Awesome!

But the invite came via text message, the RSVP is just a Google Form, and your schedule as a busy Durham professional is already packed. Does "attending" mean a full 4 hours, or just popping in? Is it rude to RSVP "Yes" and then not show up?

Modern, non-traditional events require modern etiquette. Here’s our guide to handling RSVPs and invitations with class, even when the event is totally unique.

1. The Cardinal Rule: RSVP (The Ghosting is Real)

Traditional or non-traditional, the most basic rule is still the most important. A prompt RSVP is required.

• Why it Matters: When you host a traditional dinner, you need a headcount for food. When you book a non-traditional event (like a VR Arcade session, a private cocktail class, or a scavenger hunt), the host often pays a non-refundable, per-person fee. Ghosting an RSVP for a Non-Traditional Activity can cost your host actual money.

• The Golden Window: Respond within 48 hours, even if the event is months away.

  
  

2. The Power of the "Maybe" is Overrated

In the age of digital invites, the "Maybe" button has become a crutch. For non-traditional events, try to avoid it.

• If you’re genuinely busy, just say No. It’s kinder and more helpful than a soft "Maybe" that keeps the host guessing and potentially shelling out money for a reserved spot.

• The Polite Pivot: If you can only attend for a short time, contact the host directly. Instead of "Maybe," say: "I'd love to come! I can make it for the first hour of the Axe-Throwing, but I will have to leave right after. Please count me in for the head count, but let me know if that short time window is a problem."

  
  

3. Deciphering the Digital Invite

Not all invitations are created equal. When your invite is a quick link, a WhatsApp message, or an event on a closed app, look for these key details:

• The "Stop Time": Traditional parties have flexible endings. Non-traditional activities usually have a firm start AND stop time (e.g., an escape room ends at 8:00 PM, period). Respect the window.

• The Dress Code: If it’s not explicitly stated, ask! A backyard bash is different from a themed murder mystery. A simple "Hey, what's the vibe? Should I wear something for movement?" is perfectly acceptable.

• The Registry/Gift: For non-traditional celebrations (like a "new job" party or a divorce celebration), the host may genuinely just want your presence. If you feel compelled to give, skip the store-bought item and opt for a curated, custom gift box that speaks directly to their current phase of life. (We can help with that!)

  
  

Signature Celebrations Says: Be Intentional

Whether you are hosting a one-of-a-kind life celebration or you are the busy guest, the new rule of etiquette is intention.

Be intentional with your RSVP. Be intentional with your time. Be intentional with your communication. It’s what transforms a casual get-together into a memorable Signature Celebration.

Need to plan a non-traditional event in the Durham area that will leave your guests talking? Signature Celebrations LLC & Notary Services specializes in crafting unique social events, life celebrations, and even non-traditional weddings. Contact us today to start planning your unexpected event!